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When “Having it All” Makes You Unhappy, READ THIS…

Dear Valentina,

As you turn three years old, I wanted to share a few thoughts on motherhood with you, for one day you, too, will face a crossroads. Lead with your sweet heart.

Love, Mommy


“But I’m miserable,” the supermom fired back at me. Her response made me cringe, a death knell to my dreams. I had just congratulated the high-profile television personality I had admired (and who shall remain nameless) for having both a successful career and a family with four children. I had no idea “having it all” was making her that unhappy. And that’s when I promised myself I was never going to be her. If “having it all” meant being miserable, I didn’t want to have anything to do with “it.”

The Wife Replaces The Girlfriend

“The Girlfriend” paired with cinnamon-sugar toast at Trouble Coffee Co.


Last weekend’s trip to San Francisco left me thirsty for more Trouble (as in the coffee company).

To take me back, I decided to treat myself today to “The Girlfriend” – Trouble’s so-called lavender tea with honey and steamed milk (and a touch of vanilla). I LOVE lavender so I happen to have a jar of Cloister lavender honey in my reserves (the shelf the kids can’t reach).  With a few adjustments, I believe I may have just perfected “The Girlfriend” and I’m now calling her “The Wife.” This, my friends, is what I call Mommipop, the perfect pick-me-up for a sleep-deprived mom. Pure joy in a cup!